Once upon a time in a crowded, busy city lived a girl who loved fairies. The city never belonged to her. It seemed screeching with people that were very individualistic, greedy, selfish or just too busy. At age 6 trauma hit with the sudden death of her mom. Lucky enough to have a huge home to live in granted by her grandfather, 3 souls started their journey with empty pockets and sorrow filled hearts – Her dad, her elder sister and her. The coming years were nothing like a fairy-tale, they were the perfect chapters of a drama thriller book with massive twists and turns.
While her dad worked hard to make ends meet, her sister and her worked hard to simply live life. Single parent family, major financial troubles and many difficult people around made it hard for an innocent child to believe that life can be fun. She felt deprived of love and burdened with responsibility from a tender age. When puberty arrived, she knew not what it means to be a woman except shame. Not only was she growing up in a city where men openly eve teased and even touched women in public travels but even her religion demanded separate treatment of men and women. Men seemed to have a much more superior place and ‘privileges’ than women. She wondered what was life truly about…
Life was hard. Adults in the family who one could typically trust, seemed very judgmental, controlling and biased. It felt like feeling rejection, shame, embarrassment, negativity, low self-worth and a sense of meaninglessness was all life had to offer. There were times when she could not understand her father’s frustration or why adults were so greedy, selfish or apathetic? There were times she hid the shame she felt in wearing old clothes and used bags, many times she wished she had more than just ONE friend and amongst it all, her lonely heart missed her mom’s hug. She wondered – what does it feel like to have a mom?
Life went on with its good and bad experiences. With time, great wisdom, strength and talents found the girl. By her mid 20s she began to realize what a blessing life had been to her. Owing to all difficult times, she now knew how to easily gauge people and their characters, she knew how to earn and save money very early in life, she had the courage to stand up against men who acted wrong, her will-power surfed high with courage and strength. Because she felt alone in the darkest times, she had unshakable rapport with God. By age 18, her inner calling was true and clear – “My life-purpose is to help thousands of women and children find their internal power and rise above the atrocities put towards them.” Clearly, this girl’s life had a purpose that was led by God because over all the tears, pain, sorrow and loneliness, she had learnt one very important lesson rather early in life – BE KIND and COMPASSIONATE, BE FIRM against INJUSTICE yet HUMBLE no matter what!
That took her to Masters in Psychology from Mumbai. Her passion for Psychology reflected in her performance – an Ace Student! With the help of her teachers, therapists and guides, she also worked well on herself, her insecurities and childhood perceptions for 3 years. What blossomed was a new spirit, filled with wisdom and maturity. Life moved in its own direction over the years and having moved continents post marriage, she did not get to pursue Psychology due to its lack of prevalence in Africa. That helped her grow one step stronger into finding new opportunities by fighting all odds. There began the journey of a Writer in 2009… from newspapers to blog posts and even IN-FLIGHT MAGAZINES.
…Then all of a sudden life had a surprise. She was shipped to USA for a 5 month tour that would never end! Yes, she did not know that her tour bags to USA in 2011 Summer was the launch of a new fate, she would never return to Africa. With hopes as high as New York sky scrapers, she slowly came to realize that all that glitters is not Gold. On her dependent H4 visa, she wasn’t allowed to work. The culture shock combined with the shock that she cannot utilize her MA in Psychology degree in USA led her to depression. They were bankrupt, starting life from the very basics with not even $10 to buy a toy for her daughter. How could she then imagine paying $40,000 to restudy Masters in USA?!
One day google became her God and life’s curious steps drew her to SWIHA. The one door which had the key to many others! Who knew was a LIFE-COACH was until then, she had never heard the term. By Aug. 2014 she had graduated as a Transformational Life-Coach with wonderful transformation herself, all well within reach of $2000!
Even though she still awaited her work visa, she felt like a TREE had grown in her backyard overnight! Two years later, in Dec 2016, her green card arrived! She set out one step at a time, some with fear, some with confidence to work after 10 long years! Alongside she found a wonderful Life-Coach for herself- her ex-teacher: Natalie McGovern who helped her gain much personal freedom and self-worth! She now successfully runs her Online Life-Coaching Business for ‘moms’ that feel overwhelmed, underappreciated and undervalued. She helps them build a life of emotional independence and self-worth, healing from depression, marital problems, supporting them to discover their life purpose and joys.
She also works a full time job with Great Hearts Academies for the Exceptional Student Services. She thoroughly enjoys aiding Special Needs Kids in their emotional, behavioral and academic growth. Rima attributes a lot of her success to Swiha besides her family, friends, supporters and spiritual guides. Swiha was the silver lining behind the dark clouds.